This past week I had to make a difficult decision. I had been frustrated with “I” for quite some time already; years in fact. Knowing how difficult her life has been and how dysfunctional her home life has always been, I decided to work with her and try to help her. Over the past half a year, things have gone in a downhill direction instead of uphill. It became evident that she could not work independantly and there was also the issue of funds having gone missing. I had confronted her on more than one occasion regarding the missing funds but she denied it each time. However, it’s not possible that it was anyone else as she was the only one in our home. I wanted with my whole heart to believe her but I also know how good the local people are at telling falsehoods. It’s sad but true. On more than one occasion “I” had told me stories of how she had lied to others. This only makes it more difficult for me to believe her. Talking to her about the ethics of this type of behaviour seemed to have no effect. Then there was the issue of timely arrival at work. For the local people here this is a difficult thing. I had been quite flexible for a long time but slowly over the past year have tried to make things more concrete. This had proven difficult for “I” and just added to my frustration.
Anyways, I let her go and gave her more than 2 weeks severance. However, her neighbours told her that that was not nearly enough. Legally, I am not required to give her anything, but I decided to give her some anyways. She came to ask me about it on Saturday and I told her that we were firm in our decision. I do not want to set a precendent where behaviour such as hers is rewarded. In fact, I am not the only one in our area who has experienced some difficulty of this type. Later I received an sms from “I’s” husband saying that if I was to get another helper, he would take her life. Nice…
I feel very sad and disappointed by this situation. I’m sure I made mistakes along the way, but I did try my best to do the right thing. It is so hard to know how best to help the people in a way that will produce permanent positive results. In the meantime, I have no helper and I need to wait until things calm down before even seeking out another one. “R” has been helping me a little which has eased my stress level immensely and also made me aware that I don’t need someone to help me every day, but maybe just three days a week.
Please pray for this situation and pray for wisdom for us as we try to figure out how best to help the people here.